Last Of the Fall

We had an impressive rain fall last evening and the wind rattled the windows on the house until well after midnight.  At some point, during the night, we lost power. I noticed the clock on the stove flashing this morning. 

 I went outside this morning to find the temperature to be fairly warm and inviting. I noticed that nearly all of the trees were bare. The leaves are completely gone from the Maple tree in the front yard. I boast that I have the prettiest trees on the block.  I’ll miss them until the spring.

I made the most of the weather this morning and took what will likely be the last colorful stroll along the riverwalk. I snapped a couple of photo’s that I wanted to share with you. Gorgeous morning. 

I hope that everyone is having a wonderful Wednesday. 

It’s almost December. Can you believe it?

Friends and Opinions-


Amy Schumer

It seems like the election is still causing people to be out of their minds. I’ve done my best to not get involved in any conversation about anything that is even remotely close to politics. It can’t be avoided. It’s starting to really piss me off.

The same people who were very outspoken one way are now becoming the monster they said that they were trying to avoid. It’s as astonishing to watch as it is horrifying. I don’t even recognize anyone anymore.

Here’s the thing. I am a reasonable person. I do crazy things like reading articles past their headlines. I am able to tell when something is total and complete BS and when it isn’t. I can also tell when something has been taken completely out of context.

I don’t generally listen to the blathering that is coming out of the faces of those close to me. If they show signs of anger I shut off my abilities to listen and wait for the droning to stop before I zone back in on their face. I simply can’t stand to listen to it anymore.

When an intelligent, professional human being, will claim that Snopes is fake because they debunked a fake news story, there is a serious problem.  You would think that same person would be relieved to find out that they had been duped by a fake news story, there were a lot of them going around, and that they would be happy.

Nope. We seem to have become a society of people who live to be riled up and all pissed off about something.

So, when my guy and I were out and about on Black Friday and perusing the venues for something to do, we saw that Amy Schumer, was performing at the Allstate Arena in Rosemont (near Chicago). I really like Amy Schumer. I like everything about this woman. I’ve seen her stand up in the past and I faithfully DVR her sketch comedy show on Comedy Central “Inside Amy Schumer”.

So what’s the problem?  The problem are my friends who have become crazy people who now have very loud opinions about things.  I could already hear it now. You went to see that *insert insult here * Amy Schumer? You paid money for that? Bla bla and friggin’ bla.

What’s the problem?  Awhile back, but most recently,  Amy was forced to have security remove people from the audience during a performance. They were disrupting her show to the point that she was having a real hard time getting past it and moving on.  You can’t just allow people be disruptive nor should you expect her to just take it.

Sounds reasonable right? I thought so. Except it came out later that it was “political bias” and that she threw out “Trump Supporters”. Well. If they were people in the audience acting like fools and they happened to also be Trump supporters, then I guess she threw out some Trump supporters. It wasn’t because she found out they supported a specific politician and she tossed them out due to that. They were being disruptive.

False narrative.

Last year, when her movie “Train Wreck” was released, a man went into a movie theater in Louisiana and opened fire, killing two women and injuring many others.  Amy was deeply affected by this. She then decided to lobby for stricter gun laws and increased funding for people with mental illness.

She never intended or implied to have the government take your guns away. She’s lobbying to ensure that people with a history or domestic abuse and mental illness aren’t able to legally purchase fire arms. There are laws that are already in place but they can be fairly loose depending on where you live in the country.  Not everyone is following them as they should be. There should be penalties for that.

People hate her for this. That’s what is crazy to me. Not only was she looking to raise awareness of the problem, she was also attempting to be part of the solution by seeking to have more funding available to assist people with mental illness.  Amy is perfectly clear that criminals don’t buy their weapons at a gun store like meth users don’t buy their meth from the meth store.

There is nothing wrong with either of these issues that my recently unrecognizable group of friends and acquaintances seem to take issue with. They haven’t  bothered to actually listen to what this woman has said in regards to either of the issues I mentioned above. They read a headline or hear something and it’s off to the races. They gallop off into the sunset with their misinformation and their anger.

I am a reasonable human being and I do my best not to judge anyone for any reason. I will always listen to what you have to say. I may or may not agree with you. What I don’t agree with is anyone who wants to confront or challenge me or question my patriotism over the fact that we bought tickets to see Amy Schumer.

I’m going to go ahead and be who I am and do whatever I want to do. Anyone who is standing in your way of enjoying your life and judges you for it due to their own issues, really isn’t a friend and needs to step aside.

I’m certainly done putting up with it. I can’t imagine living my day to day life just shutting down every single time I wanted to enjoy something that I like or just didn’t do what I wanted to do because it would freak somebody out.

In case you wondered, Amy was phenomenal. We had a great time. I will continue to be a fan of hers for reasons other than the fact that she’s hilarious. She stands up for the issues that she is passionate about and she has put herself out there to be part of the solution for those issues.

That’s more than the people who judge me or attempt to persuade me into their way of thinking have ever done. The thing that bothers me the most about this new found sect of my friends is that not one of them is doing anything positive to become the change that they want to see in the world.





A Walk In the Park

Sometimes I don’t have time to venture too far from home. Sometimes, I lack the ambition to do so. I usually blame it on being tired. Quite often, I just don’t have time. 

I’ve explained before that I am your typical Introverted personality. I need a lot of space and quiet time to recharge myself. As you know, my life is crisis for six days a week, eight to twelve hours a day. Add the stress of everything else and it was easy for me to tell that I needed to detach and spend some time outside and away from people.

I enjoy the quiet. You can learn a lot by just sitting and listening. Solutions to problems can creep into your mind, you notice things that you didn’t before.

Sometimes even amazing little things can happen. Be quiet and see what transpires. Pay attention and own your moments.

I enjoy walking the three mile loop along the river walk in the city where I work. From the parking lot around the several conjoined city parks, it’s exactly three miles. 

It’s beautiful out there. Along the way, you may encounter wildlife. Ducks, geese, turtles and squirrels. Occasionally, in the early morning, I’ve seen a fox. 

With the exception of the turtles and the fox, the animals are fairly accustomed to people. People are guilty of feeding them. The city actually has an ordinance against feeding the ducks and Canada geese because the Canada geese are really aggressive. 

The squirrels are curious and always watch me as I pass by. When I sit near the wall by the river, they get really close to me in order to check me out. They’ve gotten used to me passing by and stopping. They stopped running away when I approach.

Overtime, as I sit and watch the river flow past, they’ve inched themselves closer and closer. No doubt looking for a hand out. I’ve always had a policy about keeping wildlife wild, however, I don’t live in a national park. 

They’re fun to watch. 

On the occasion, I leave shelled peanuts on the trail behind the trees where only the squirrels can find them. Recently, they’ve become brace and will actually take a peanut from my hand.

I’ve never claimed to be perfect. I’ve never claimed to know it all. When your childhood friend and your cousin find you to be “disgusting” based on your opinions about love and peace,  it’s good to know that the squirrels still think you’re awesome.

I don’t recommend feeding wildlife. With that said, these guys are fairly accustomed to people. As you can see they are obviously used to me but they are still leery of humans. So please don’t scold me. 

I don’t plan on giving up my Zen.

Saturday DIY- Turning Glass Into Stone

While I was looking at paint for other projects that I am working on, I stumbled across this amazing invention. It’s spray paint that looks like stone after it dries.

Product retails $8.00

Product retails $8.00

I got the wild idea that I could buy cheaper flower pots at the dollar store and then paint them with this product and have fancy looking flower pots at a fraction of the cost.  Then I started to fantasize about the other projects I could do using this product.

Genius, right?  The spray cost about $8.00. It comes in the standard size spray paint can. It doesn’t have a special sprayer or anything. The only color options that I saw were silver, gold, and a brown or copper color. I chose silver.  I think it might actually need a primer but I didn’t buy it, probably because I didn’t notice it on the shelf. That is something that you might want to look into if you decide to use this on any projects.

Standard glass vase

Standard glass vase

I have a few glass vases in my cabinet that never serve their purpose. They aren’t very pretty to look at. I think that someone sent me flowers, once upon a time and they were the vases they flowers arrived in.  The people who sent them might be gone, along with the flowers, but I still have vases.  I hate throwing stuff like that out because you never know when you can use them.

I decided that one of these “throw away” vases would be my first victim. I caught myself looking at decorative vases to place on the mantle above the fireplace and on an oak hutch that I have in my living-room. I’m picky though. While I like designs, I also like things that are plain. I am good with anything that is someplace in the middle. Simplicity is best.

That was my thought as I attempted to turn a cruddy glass vase into stone.   I didn’t do anything to prepare the glass for application.  When you spray it on the glass it’s wet and clumpy and can be best described as being like wet ash from a cigarette.

Below is the vase after three applications.  I added one application and then let it dry. Then I applied more.  I learned quickly that if you don’t allow it to dry, the paint will blow across the glass. It also has the tendency to stick together and clump and run down the glass.  I mentioned using a primer above, I haven’t tried it. I do think that it would help the paint stick better and allow you to use less of the product.

After 3 applications

After 3 applications

Don’t forget to add some of the paint around the edge of the vase on the inside. I wouldn’t recommend applying the product on the inside of the vase if you are planning to fill it with water for flowers.   You will have to really look over  the glass to make sure that there are no gaps that you can see through. Short bursts of the product should fill in any small gaps that you might find.

I allowed the vase to sit over night and then applied the final application the next day.  When I was satisfied with the way that it looked I allowed it to dry completely before picking it up and spraying the bottom.  I then let it rest upside down to dry.

The finished product.

The finished product.

I am really happy with the final results.  The vase looks amazing with the bouquet of sunflowers that my mother brought me.

So pretty!

So pretty!

I recommend hand washing the project and allowing it to air dry.

This was a fairly easy “do it yourself” project.  It was also a really fun experiment and I couldn’t be more pleased with the results.

What are some do it yourself projects that you experimented with?  Good or bad, how did they turn out?


When In Doubt Take A Walk

Along with a lot of other people, I felt the stress and tension of this past week. I am sure that it probably won’t be any better this week either. I am a mix bag of emotions. I’m mostly disheartened at the loss of friends and family. I don’t get it, but at this point I’m just shrugging my shoulders. I’ll give it all some time and maybe if I feel brave, I’ll pick up the phone and call them.

I opted to skip the gym this past week and took some long walks instead. I find that fresh air and exercise can do a lot for your troubled mind. At least it is for mine. I was sick for most of October so it has been really therapeutic to be getting out again. 

Dingo Lu was also happy to be able to go hiking and join me on some of my walks near our home. We haven’t been able to venture too far for what feels like a long time. 

I love Autumn and thankfully we still have a lot of color to enjoy. The weather has actually been perfect. We are having a real Autumn and are making that smooth transition into winter. 

I’ve mentioned in past entries that we are  blessed with two really nice river walks that follow the St. Joseph River and of course I visited the Spicer Lake Nature Preserve.

 Between the air, the colors and the exercise I feel less tense and upset than I had. I snapped some photo’s along the way. Below are a few of my favorites. 

I hope that everyone had a wonderful week!! 

Squirrel! This guy was disappointed that I didn’t have any granola.

Roses still in bloom at Kate’s Garden

Fisherman on the St. Joseph River

View along the riverwalk on the St. Joseph River

Dingo Lu looking for frogs on the pier at Lancaster Lake

I love it when the forest glows.. Spicer Lake Nature Preserve


So.. How was your week?

On Tuesday, I wrote about how I took my son with me to vote in the election. I mentioned how I don’t discuss politics or religion with my friends and family members for the sole purpose of keeping the peace.

I don’t know what it’s like around your neck of the woods but around here, it wasn’t socially acceptable to have voted for either Hillary Clinton or Donald Trump. I realized that pretty quickly even before the election happened. People were incredibly nasty about opposing opinions and ideas.  That really motivate me to keep my mouth shut about my decisions.

I’m certainly not opposed to debate with anyone or even a lively conversation but I also don’t like to be hassled. I find the thought of a debate or even a lively discussion about either of the candidates and the issues to be exceptionally tiresome. Mostly because I know what awaits if my opinions don’t match theirs.

As I read about the “protests”,  and let’s face it and call it what it is, “riots” that are happening in the country after the results of the election,  it makes me think that this was more about “your candidate” winning or losing than it ever was about the issues and what’s really happening in our country.

I really don’t care who you voted for or why. It’s none of my business. I do take issue with violence and the destruction of property. At that point, your cause is lost to me. When you’re attacking police officers, setting things on fire, breaking out windows and holding up signs about raping Melania Trump, I no longer want to hear your concerns. I do not support that.

Maybe that opinion will be unpopular but I stand by it. While you do have the right to protest whatever you want to, you don’t have the right to attack people or destroy property. If I was Hillary Clinton, I would be embarrassed.

I made the mistake of responding to a post on Facebook to make that point. The Facebook belonged to a very smart woman who is educated, a professional and hails from the same small town that I am from.

She posted an article that justified the riots.

I’ve known this woman since I was probably five years old. When I touched on the violence and destruction and the fact that people were calling for the rape of Melania Trump and reminded them that it was not going to reverse the outcome of the election, I was informed that I was a racist, had no compassion for the human race along with some other horrible and hurtful accusations.

If you want to know how that felt, it was hurtful and it was rather shocking to me.

Two things.

1. My resume proves these accusations wrong. I’ve worked as a public servant since I was 22 years old. I’ll be 40 on December 1.  If you were to ask anyone who has ever encountered me they will tell you that I am kind, generous and fair. I’ve also saved the lives of countless strangers that I have never even met. I’d give you the shirt off my back if you needed it.

2. Nothing screams compassion for the human race like attacking a middle aged white guy that you suspect is a Trump supporter. Or calling for and encouraging the rape of Melania Trump. Or setting a business on fire. You’re hurting your communities and your cause.

I was unfriended and blocked on Facebook because I pointed out that what was happening was wrong. I’ve never told anyone who I voted for. However, I will never stand by and justify these things. Anyone in their right mind wouldn’t.

My 50 something cousin also unfriended and blocked me on Faceboook because she made a false statement and I told her she was wrong and then backed it up with facts. Again, I pointed out a fact and never once have voiced who I was supporting in the election. The problem with that was that I won’t allow a false narrative or an outright lie. I didn’t even say anything on her personal Facebook. It was on mine.

If you’ve ever wondered what your worth really was to the people in your life, you probably found out this past week.  My question at this point is, how do you come back from that? I can only assume in the months to come, if and when things settle down and people aren’t so angry, that the people who were that angry at you over your opinion might try to make amends. What if they do? What if they don’t though?

I should’ve listened to my grandfather and just scrolled right on by and kept my mouth shut. I shouldn’t have to but it would probably be better. I would at least still have my childhood friend and my cousin. It’s easy to say that I don’t need these women in my life but I don’t feel that way. Apparently, I wasn’t valued by them.

I value the people who are in my lives every day.

If you’re having disagreements with your friends and family please think twice before you allow things to get too heated or you make the decision to disown them.  These are the people who are standing by you and support you and are around you everyday.


Election Day



My grandfather used to say that if you want to keep the peace with your friends and family to never discuss politics and religion. So I don’t.  Based on what I see unfolding on my Facebook and my Twitter, I am glad that I don’t.  Holy turmoil.

One of my cousins actually posted that “If you voted for Trump, unfriended and block me now you people make me sick,”

Way harsh?

I don’t care who anyone voted for. We all had our reasons for choosing our candidates. I don’t think it’s any reason to actually banish your friends and family from your lives. Those people are the ones who love and support you every single day. To disown anyone based on their voting habits is pretty foolish.


My son has been studying the election in school so I thought it would be fun to take him with me to our polling place to vote with me. Also, his school was closed so there was no reason not to take him with me. He even chose his American  flag shirt to wear. He looked cute.

We are set to vote in a building in a park that isn’t too far from our house. When we arrived we found the line to be fairly short. However, there was a hold up in the line. It was explained to everyone in line that the hold up was because a voter arrived who had previously opted to vote absentee. They then changed their mind. If you do that, you have to bring the ballot with you to your polling place to verify that you hadn’t already voted. She didn’t bring the ballot with her.

They were turned away until she could provide that ballot.  They actually made the call to head quarters and put it on peaked phone so that everyone could hear the conversation that was happening. Which I thought was great because if they hadn’t, I would’ve called to report the incident.

Dom was fascinated with the whole thing. I was really proud at how interested, polite and patient he was. He had a pretty good time while his mother as stressing out over her decisions.  Which I will not discuss here. Although, I did tweet to Jackie Walorski to let her know that I didn’t vote for her. I’m catty like that.

I know that’s probably childish and unnecessary but it got liked and retweeted like I wasn’t the only dissatisfied citizen.  The feed to that particular post was pretty crazy without my input.

Before heading in to work for the day, I dropped my kiddo off at his grandma’s house. He explained to her that we had gone to the park and that he “Voted for the United States Of America”.  He was proud to be a part of it.

I stayed up as late as I could for the results. I fell asleep and actually woke up as they were calling it in favor of Donald Trump. I listened to his speech and then turned off the TV.

Did anyone else take their kids with them to vote? Do you explain the process along with how it works and why it is so important to get out there and make your voices heard?

I hope everyone is having a great day!