I’m Giving Up My Smart Phone- Sort Of

I am so sick of my cell phone.

I am sick of looking at it.

I am sick of looking for it because I’ve reached that point where I’m convinced that I need to have it close by 24/7/365.

I am sick of listening to it.

I am so sick of listening to it and looking at it that I have  it set up to tell me who is calling when it rings. I have also designated special text tones for my close friends.  Chalisa is “meditation bell” while Kate is “bird whistle” and any supervisor from work is “telegraph”.  The list goes on. If you’re not a close friend, also known as the mystery messenger, then you’re the generic “ding” and I will get to you when I get to you.

Sadly, the mystery of the unknown “ding” text notification is often so overwhelming that I will go see who, outside of the tribe, has dared to send me a text message.  Thus, shattering the whole point of giving those close to me a special sound when they reach out.

It’s not just the phone calls, the notifications and the text notifications. It’s the multiple alarms that I set to wake me up every morning. I go into a blind rage at 5:45 in the morning, every morning, when the alarm goes off on my cell phone. I also have an alarm clock.

A cell phone was meant to be a tool, not to swallow your entire existence. I depend on my iPhone way too much. It’s my alarm clock, my calendar, my jukebox and camera. It has literally become this tool that I cannot live without.

I am old enough to remember life before cell phones. As an adult during that time, I never sat and stared at my phone waiting for it to ring. I was perfectly fine with leaving the house for the day and allowing anyone who called me to leave a message on my answering machine.  Sometimes, for days!

Back then, coming home to a message waiting for me was like a delightful surprise, depending on who it was from, but there was no stress over it. If someone called me then they called me.

There was no expectation from anyone to get a call back in 2.5 seconds either.

I miss the good ol’ days before all of this nonsense. Life truly was better back then. It’s great having the conveniences that come with cell phone/smart phones, but I miss the way we behaved back then. We didn’t expect people to drop everything to talk, text etc.

Seriously, I know people who will send an e-mail, then send a text that they sent an e-mail and if you don’t respond to that text quick enough to suit them, they’ll call. What is the point of all of that and why does anyone feel that entitled?

I am a mother, friend, girlfriend etc not the President Of the United States.

I am also over being annoyed at friends, relatives and the boyfriend being on their phone while we are spending time together. Nothing reminds me of how unimportant I am to the other person like watching them scroll through social media and text while we are having dinner.

I admit that I have been guilty of looking at my phone when I probably shouldn’t have. I’ve noticed that it usually encourages the person that I am with to also check their phone but that’s no excuse and it isn’t polite. It shouldn’t be the new normal. I also admit that when someone else has checked their phone when I wasn’t, I felt a little crappy because of it.

What am I going to do about it?

I have decided to challenge myself over the next month.  I am going to stop looking at my phone as often. I am going to delete the majority of the apps that I have that seem to constantly distract me from more important things.  I honestly don’t get that much out of them in the first place.

I am going to set the phone on my night stand vs allowing it to be on the bed while I sleep. If it rings or goes off during the night, I will still check it.  Main reason being, I work in public safety and am subject to last minute mandates into work and also,  my boyfriend is a police officer who works midnights.

I really don’t need to be on Instagram at 3am. Or checking Facebook.

I am just sick of feeling like I have to be connected at all times. I’m done. I am wasting too much time just mindlessly scrolling.  I am not missing anything that can’t wait until a specific time of day. The thought of breaking free from my phone feels like freedom.

We will see how long this lasts.



4 thoughts on “I’m Giving Up My Smart Phone- Sort Of

  1. rontuaru says:

    It’s a habit, like any other habit so expect this to feel uncomfortable. Deleting superfluous apps is a great place to start. Then work on turning your sound off or down over predesignated times of the day. (I’d highy recommend using a REAL alarm clock and turning the phone OFF at night) Inform your text pals that you will NOT be responding to texts ASAP unless it’s an emergency. Then tell your friends that if something IS an emergency they should CALL. Teach family and friends how to use voice mail. Very, VERY few calls are actually an emergency. Delete social media apps. Stop taking pictures of everything you see and start exercising your mental camera. Embrace the mantra that if you lost all your photos tomorrow, it won’t matter. It’s always much easier not to form a habit than to break one once formed. Good luck with this. Spoken as someone who never panics when I leave the house without my phone. In fact, I’m someone who routinely practices leaving the phone at home whenever possible, which is actually pretty often . Because, yeah … nobody really cares that much. (About your pics, texts or opinion on social media, etc.)

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  2. jennlives says:

    Here is where it gets complicated… I have to have my phone on at all times because my employment requires that I be accessible to them 24/7/365 (public safety). I WISH that I could put it on silent or do not disturb at night but I can’t. I can’t assign my employer to “favorites” either because it’s always a different number when we dial out AND it comes up private.

    Awesome, eh?

    During the day when my boss isn’t looking for me, my kiddo is at school and I never, or at least rarely, stay at home. I am either out in the barn or out in the woods. I don’t even have a house phone anymore. I actually haven’t in probably 10 years. If he has an issue at school, my cell is the only way they can contact me.

    On a funny note, I ignored a phone call from the school and then ended up e-mailing me because I didn’t answer the phone. Maybe I almost have them trained? Thankfully, it wasn’t an emergency.

    I’ve actually been doing pretty good so far. I deleted distracting apps and signed out of others while disabling notifications.. The partial disconnect is liberating. I’ve managed to get a few things done. It’s ridiculous.

    I miss the days when we all just got on our bikes and left the house until the street lights came on with ZERO thought as to what other people were doing.. Let’s face it, the constant connections to others isn’t about love.. At all.

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  3. rontuaru says:

    “I miss the days when we all just got on our bikes and left the house until the street lights came on with ZERO thought as to what other people were doing.. Let’s face it, the constant connections to others isn’t about love.. At all.”

    This ^^ is very, very true. And it always comes back to the fact that 99% of the people you “know” (online) don’t care about you or what you’re doing. It’s just background noise for them, like someone who leaves their radio or TV on all day long with no idea of what they’ve actually heard or seen. (Another habit I never do) Sorry you work in a field that is so critical that you have to live at beck and call 24/7. Hope you’re making a small fortune as compensation for your time and sanity. (Doubtful, but there you have it.) 😉


  4. scrambler27 says:

    You might start here, Jenn. Turn off your data. Turn. Your. Data. Off. you only get to use your data when you actually need it and then you turn it on, do the task, and turn it off again. Takes all of about 10 seconds. Now your phone is starting to become a phone again. Camera still works, calculator still works, gps still works if you actually needed it, texting still works. And your battery lasts for days instead of hours. Try that as the next step after you delete a bunch of apps. That’s what I did. Love it.

    And I also hate that text, email, phone scenario you described. Problem is, it’s my best friend that does it! Arrrghh

    As far as the rest of the world goes, well, they obviously don’t care and their phone IS their life because they have no other. Sad is what that is.

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